Attachment for Couples.

Couples often seek therapy when they are experiencing a rupture in the romantic attachment bond. 

EFT therapy can help with an exploration of unmet needs and longings for each partner in the relationship. Some questions that can assist both partners in understanding how they experience each other's accessibility are identified using the acronym A.R.E. :

• Is the partner - Accessible (Can I reach you?) An example is being present for your partner rather then shutting down.

• Is the partner - Responsive (Can I rely on you?) An example is tuning into or turning towards a partners needs and responding to them.

• Is the partner - Engaged (Will you value me and stay close?) An example is being fully present and attentive, which fosters deeper intimacy.

  
  

(Accessibility, Responsiveness, Engagement Quiz, Based on Hold Me Tight,  Sue Johnson, 2008)

When thinking about attachment for couples the goal in therapy is to strengthen the deep bond between romantic partners. 

Some indicators of a secure romantic relationship will be:

• Based on secure bonding (secure base)

• Balanced regulation (co-regulation)

• Constructive dependency or “interdependence”

  
  

(Sue Johnson, 2008)

If you are seeking more interactive EFT exercises Hold Me Tight, By Sue Johnson is a great resource.